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Do You Dress for Yourself?

For many women, dressing up and looking presentable is almost second nature to them. The question is, who do you really dress for? Do you do it to make yourself feel good, especially after a bad day? Or do you mainly do it to attract guys?

Personally, there was a time when I was more driven to look good for others. My outfit choices would be based on what garnered the most attention. Also, I wasn’t afraid to show a little bit too much skin. I wanted to look gorgeous and hot for the guys, after all.

However, I have come to realize that this shouldn’t be the case. Sure, it;s nice to make an effort to look beautiful for your partner. But the main thing is, wear what you want to wear for yourself. Don’t feel pressured into walking out in something that doesn’t make you a hundred percent comfortable, but since it would make you extra sexy, you would still go ahead and wear it.

Remember, you do YOU. Dress up for YOU.

Dating 101: Do Have a Life Outside Your Relationship

I know it’s been two years since I last updated this blog, and let me tell you, it’s been the craziest two years of my life! :) I’m not going into details right now but yes, I’m currently in a relationship. For those who’ve been following my blog – when I was still active here – you know what I had been through so the fact that I’m now able to tell you guys that I finally found someone makes me really happy.

I’ve certainly learned a lot in my experiences but I want to share this important tip that many people seem to be forgetting.

Do have a life outside your relationship.

Come on ladies. Just because you’re finally with someone doesn’t mean that you stop making time for the people you were with when you were single. That is so not cool! Also, try not to make your relationship your whole life. In order for you to keep growing, and stay interesting for your man, you must carve time for other things. Don’t just forget about yourself, your hobbies and your dreams the moment you fall in love.

Don’t worry, I am trying to practice what I preach. ;)

 

Getting Back Into Dating

After spending years being in a relationship with one person, I felt so liberated after the breakup. Of course I mourned the loss of the relationship but after that, the only thing I felt was relief. I am no longer shackled. I am free.

I have a lot of free time now. I no longer need to think or worry about another person. For the first time in a very long time, I can actually do what I want without any compromise. It is quite relieving I tell you. I bet other newly single people can relate to what I’m saying a few weeks to a month after their breakup.

I love being single! Sometimes I wonder why I never thought about this earlier. But of course, I had to go through hardships to truly appreciate being single.

This is why I am not listening to people on my social circle who are pestering me to get back into dating. I do not want to date. I am genuinely happy being single. I like watching movies that I want. I like going to restaurants that I love and I have no problems curling up by the fire on a Friday night reading my book. Sure, you’d say I’m a bitter, single person but here are some of the reasons why I don not want to go dating.

1. I do not know how to – after spending years with one person, I have no idea how to act on a date. I’ll be uncomfortable and anxious to the point that it will be awkward for the both of us.

2. I hate the game – I never liked dating in the first place. I hate the game. I hate pussyfooting around. I like my relationships to start organically and not as a result of social convention or experimentation.

3. It’s a waste of time and money – what’s the point spending hours with a person that you do not like? Its too much precious time to risk on a possibility of happiness when I am already happy right now.

I’m not resigned to be single forever. I just don’t want to start dating just because I’m supposed to be dating.

Oh by the way, this will be my last post. I’m going on a backpacking trip across the country. See you guys in a few months! Here’s to an adventurous single life!

Keeping Busy

Being single has helped me become a different person. Lately, I have been more focused on myself and what I can do to achieve my goals and dreams. I have done things that I never really found the time to do while I was being happily in love. Now, since I have found myself with more free time, I was able to do things like finally helping out in the nursing home. I have always been meaning to help out but never really gotten around to doing it until now.

I have been also able to catch up with all of my friends whom I haven’t really spent a lot of time with when I was still in a relationship. I really feel bad that I actually gave more time with my ex but with my friends, I didn’t get to spend time with them as often as I should have. Now, I am making amends and I always find time to meet up with them. I won’t ever blow off my friends just for a guy. I know better now.

Most especially, being single has given me a lot of time to visit my family more often. I admit that I was not the most excited person ever when it came to visiting my family. Now, I really take the time to visit them even for just a weekend and I really appreciate the time that I do spend with them. I have come to realized that even if you lose everything, your family will always be the only people who are going to stand by you no matter what.

Emotional Shopper

Emotional shopping is only good if you have money. If you do not have much to spare, it is better if you steer away from this kind of shopping because surely, you will only get more depressed after. Being financially depressed is far worse. So today, I thought that I could blow some cash by buying stuff that I won’t probably be wearing anyway but I still bought them because they made me feel good about myself. Besides, I bought stuff that would help me in my makeover.

 I am no expert in putting on make-up but I like collecting eye shadows. They look so pretty especially the really bright ones. Of course, I don’t really know how to apply them. I just know how to randomly apply a very basic color palette as to just be safe and not look like a clown. With it, I also bought some brushes which my friends told me that I should have. Every brush goes with a specific application so I must have everything if possible. Quite funny since I don’t really know how to do eye make-up all that well. As long as I don’t look like I have a black eye, I would already say that I did enough.

I probably bought three black dresses. Like they say, one can never have enough of the LBD.

Single is Sexy

Today my friends and I went back to the gym again. Of course, like the first time, we were all pretty excited and we all were fretting about what to wear. Pardon us, we are girls after all. Of course, the girls were more excited to go back because of the “hot” trainer we have. Their words, not mine. I am so not ready for discussions like that anyway.

When we went to the gym, we automatically headed towards the treadmill area for our warm ups. However, our trainer stopped us because he wanted us to try the elliptical tool this time. He said he wanted to try and see first if what kind of program he was going to give us. Each person has different programs depending on the areas that needed work. He explained that the elliptical trainer was better suited for those who wanted to really give their lower bodies a workout. True enough, after just a few minutes of being on the machine, we were all so tired and our legs were aching already. But of course, my friends were trying to impress our trainer (who’s name is John by the way) so they didn’t try to complain while he was within earshot.

Elliptical Trainer

Single is indeed sexy.

Girl Time

Being single has a lot of perks too. Now, I am able to spend time with my girlfriends more. Before, there was a time when it was always just me and my ex. My friends were very understanding of course but it just was not the same. Now, we do a lot of things together. We go to malls and we have been spending a lot of time in coffee shops or eating anywhere we felt like eating. It was just me and my girls and I actually and genuinely loved every minute of being with them.

It reminds me of our favorite show, Sex and the City which brings me to a conversation we had. We asked ourselves regarding who we were in the characters of the show. I said I was Carrie because I was the one who loved to write the most and it is pretty obvious since I am blogging about my life right now. Of course, I wish I had her closet and collections of shoes and all those beautiful things she had on the show.

The girls of Sex and the City

I love my friends and no matter what happens from here on out, we will always have each other’s backs. I am very thankful that they didn’t leave me alone and they always put in a lot of effort to cheer me up. Boys come and go in your life but your real friends are always just going to be there for you. Thank you girls. I love you forever!

 

 

Changing Routines

Being single after a long time of being part of a duo, I have decided that it was time to change my routines. Sometimes, I still catch myself thinking about doing something that I usually did for my ex or doing something that involved him. That is why it was about time that I adjust the things I do and this time, I should do things for myself.

My apartment was also still arranged to incorporate my ex’s life as well. That’s why today, I decided to clean up and fix my place. I started with my closet. My ex used to come over all the time and I had to give him some space in my closet. Now that I am alone, I should start filling in the empty spaces.

I also had to fix my bathroom and the medicine cabinet. I used to share a lot of space with my ex but now that he’s not here anymore, my apartment should be all about me. It is time to be selfish and love myself again. I have been living my life always compromising with my ex but this time, everything should be all about me. It is my time and nothing is going to stop me from being happy even without him in my life.

Gym With the Girls

Today was our first workout day. My friends and I were so excited that we really prepared what we were going to wear to the gym. It was really lame of us but the main thing was that we were really looking forward to sweating it out.

When we arrived at the gym, thankfully, there weren’t really a lot of people there. I know that we were going to be so noisy that it would be really embarrassing if there were a lot of people working out too. The four of us met with the trainer and he assigned us to start with cardio on the treadmill. True to what we had imagined, we found ourselves running side by side. There was a huge television in front of us that was showing an episode of America’s Next Top Model. It was pretty cool actually. We were aso amazed at the technology of our treadmill.

It was a Nordictrack treadmill and there were a lot of programs to choose from. At first we got really confused with what to press and all but after a few random presses, we finally were able to start working out. It was really cool because there was a map and you could pretend that you were walking or running an actual route.

After warming up, we proceeded to other equipments and we were even asked to lift some weights. They weren’t really heavy but it was exhausting when you go over everything on just your first day. But all in all, it was a nice experience. Plus, my friends were all excited to go back there because they had a crush on our trainer. Haha, typical.

 

Wallowing

Just a quick post because I really don’t feel like thinking or doing anything else right now. Yes, I am wallowing. But isn’t it normal? Anyone in my position would do the same thing I am sure. But always remember that after you have given yourself a few days or weeks of wallowing and letting everything out, start picking up the pieces and stop crying your heart out with everything related to your ex.

This is exactly what I am doing now because after this stage, I am going to be strong and feel better about myself. Things will always work out in the end.